You're Single because You're Bitter

Being a bitter Black woman really isn't attractive; kinda sad that a lot of women don't even realize they're bitter or angry and that's whats causing men to be turned off, not their weight, or flaws. Oh and that constant extolling your own virtues, please sit down; let a man see your attributes for himself, stop shoving them down his throat. Let me elaborate; you are single because you are bitter and it's coming off you like a cheap perfume! You walk around wearing your hurt at the last man on your shoulders like that new handbag you just bought, and hunny it is super tacky! You were hurt; so what, it wasn't the first time and I doubt it will be the last so please stop it! Not only are you keeping yourself shielded and telling all the good men out there that want to get to know you that your issues have you all messed up, but you are keeping yourself from healing and moving on. And telling a man how you can cook, clean and take care of him does nothing but make you look desperate and needy. How do you honestly know how to take care of a man when you are constantly yelling about how you have been hurt and letting yourself go and then throwing yourself at every dick you see?  I mean really, have some self-respect and stop it with the "bitter bitch-itis." I have been hurt many times and badly, and let me tell you I didn't realize I was starting to become bitter until it got pointed out to me and that is sooo not the move! Being bitter only brings you down, makes you come across as unapproachable and keeps you from finding your happy. If you thought being bitter was bothering your ex, please look in the mirror and slap yourself because he has moved on at least two times since you decided to play Beyonce's "Me Myself and I" and declare that you were through being hurt and you were going to make any man who came after suffer and pay the cost. The only one paying is you, and for the poor man that decides he's going to pursue you anyway, you just messed his head up and now he's running around here thinking that being the nice guy is overrated and you are one crazy hoe! And it kills me to see women getting angry because they're single and want to call men dogs and talk about how there are no good men around when they are the ones driving the good men away because their view is blocked by their bitterness. I have been guilty myself of wanting to follow that path, but at the end of the day all I was doing was hurting myself, like you bitter woman are hurting yourself. And it seems more prevalent in the Black woman that bitterness becomes our best friend; is it really his fault that he hurt us when we shouldn't have been messing with him in the first place? All the warnings were there, labels on his forehead and the manuscript for his life said "garbage" and we still wanted a piece of him. And we are mad at him because everything he said he was, he actually was! Bitter Black Woman Syndrome is so overrated and all it does it make things worse for you and the next Black woman, no surprise really when Black men start pursuing dating options outside the race; I would to if all I had to choose from was angry, mad, hurt and make 'em pay!! You're tired of being single and getting hurt by the wrong man, stop giving your time and  heart to everyone piece of testosterone you see, and look at yourself and see what you are doing to contribute to the failed relationships you keep having, and please throw away the bitter perfume you keep spraying on yourself; it's last season and probably expired anyway!